How to become mentally stronger?
Here are 14 tips for becoming mentally strong.
Don't waste your energy feeling sorry for yourself. Avoid destructive beliefs about ourselves. We sometimes tend to feel sorry for ourselves. Sometimes we say things like, "Why is this only happening to me?" or “What am I doing to deserve all my misfortune?”, “I shouldn't have to face all of this”. This type of thinking prevents us from finding the solution to our worries by staying focused on the problem. While we may not always find the solution to our problems, there is always room to make your life or the lives of others a little better.
Avoid negative beliefs about others. We sometimes think that others can control us and take our strength from us. However, as adults living in free countries, there is ultimately very little that we really cannot do. It is up to us to react positively or not to situations. For example, if one of your relative or your colleague at work irritates you, it is good to remember that you are responsible for reacting or not, for getting angry or not. You always have the choice to decide in the final instance, and having negative beliefs about others takes your strength away.
Stop thinking that the world owes you anything. Avoid destructive beliefs about the world. We tend to think that the world owes us something. We sometimes think that if we work hard then we deserve to be successful. But to expect success as a reward from heaven for our efforts only leads to disappointment.
Accept the change. attachment to impermanent things turns out to be the cause of suffering, because what is impermanent cannot be satisfying. We must then embrace the change which is the very essence of the reality of the world.
Don't waste your energy trying to change what is immutable. We come to earth with a number of things that we cannot change. Remember that we are passing through here. And the world is not as we often want us to believe.
Don't try to please everyone at all costs. We cannot please everyone, it is a reality that must be accepted. There is no point in wasting energy trying to please everyone. Mentally strong people recognize that they don't need to please everyone all the time. They are not afraid to say no. They strive to be kind and fair, but may face other people if they make them unhappy.
Don't be afraid of calculated risks. Mentally strong people don't take reckless, clumsy, or stupid risks, but they're not shy about taking calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time weighing the risks and benefits before making a big decision, and they are fully informed of the potential downside before they take action.
Don't stay focused on the past. Mentally strong people don't waste time in their past feeling sorry for themselves. They recognize their past and can say what they have learned from it.
Avoid repeating the same mistakes over and over again. Mentally strong people take responsibility for their behavior and learn from past mistakes. As a result, they do not repeat these mistakes over and over. Instead, they move forward and make better decisions in the future.
Don't envy others for their success. Mentally strong people can appreciate and celebrate each other's success in life. They do not fall into the trap of jealousy when others overcome them. Envy leads to lying or sabotaging others to get ahead.
Don't throw in the towel on the first failure. Mentally strong people don't see failure as a reason to give up. Instead, they use failure as an opportunity for growth and improvement. They are ready to keep trying until they are successful.
Don't be afraid to spend some one-on-one time with yourself. We all need time to relax, work at solving our problems, and rejuvenate ourselves. Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and are not afraid of silence. They enjoy what they do and are not permanently dependent on others' company and entertainment, but can be content on their own.
Practice loving gratitude or benevolence. This is a very powerful way to gradually tame your emotions and open your heart. There are many practices of benevolence, some stemming from meditation. Indeed, one of the facets of mindfulness meditation is loving benevolence . Mentally strong people have learned to be grateful for the gifts life gives us
Don't expect immediate results. Rome was not built in a day. Mentally strong people are working to improve their health or start a new business, they don't expect immediate results. Instead, they apply their skills and time to the best of their ability and understand that real change takes time.